LIFE LESSON

 Some thoughts to ponder over -  J K SIVAN 

We are friends,  How  thick and close we are ?  It depends on the way we maintain our contacts and create a great good will in the minds of  all. Any association with a motive, self interest will certainly fail because  it is easily noticeable. Built on a platform of  mutual love, affection, help, and joint effort to promote friendship with everyone alone will strengthen the relationship.

So we have to show more care in maintaining our good relationship for the betterment of our society.

The happiness in any family depends on how the couples spend their time, how much they care to connect with each other in keeping their relationship healthy and strong  It involves give-and take- policy and tolerance and understanding of the other.   Close, loving relationship with life partner, is what everyone looks for in life  but many lack the spirit to promote it.  partners in life are not just picking one off the shelf, use and throw.

No one knew of divorce and breaking of marriage in the lives of our forefathers and ancestors. Nowadays it has become the order of the day.  very soon after their marriage, the couple seek separation legally. why?  what is the mental and physical agony involved which should have been avoidable if care was exercised and more thought was given for a happy future by both jointy.   Even today it is a common sight that many elders in their oldage  when separated from their partners do not survive because the love and affection and need for the other person is heartily felt.

Relationship just dont happen of its own,  it is chosen, enjoyed, time and effort is spent on developing it to last long.

Life is ever challenging for everyone.  So we need a support to face it. The support should be reliable, mentally same levelled,  help each other to walk the path of life successfully.  Many wives are  source of encouragement for the husbands and so are they to their wives.  Comparison has no place between couples, because  once ego and arrogance sets in it will spoil a healthy  longtime relationship.

Pointing out the errors, mistakes of the other is unwarranted, because no one is perfect.  Accept and try to correct wherever possible, your ways.  It is a joint venture to the accepted same goal of happiness. Constructive healthy criticism in polite soothing way would be wholeheartedly accepted by the other, because of the trust one has on the other.  Everyone needs patient listening to their views, and  expect attention be given to him or her.

We  all cannot and may not be mind readers. Therefore  expression is needed for asking what we want, and helping the other  with their needs.  Communication between couples is  most essential for long term happy relationship in life.

God has created us to help each other without self interest.  Everyone is blessed with some talent which should be unearthed, exposed and appreciated.   I have  observed how successful it is in life in my long years of survival so far.