THIS MAY APPLY TO MANY..

 THIS MAY APPLY TO MANY... J.K SIVAN 

​Someone made a decision to distribute his wealth in the form of assets at his  60th year as a gesture of good will, to all his 

children. While distributing the assets it was an understanding that while still alive, the parents would avail the money required for their usual style of living, including their needs for medical, travel and shopping etc., from the return on the assets invested in the children's name, and it was agreed by the children who enjoyed the assets distributed in their favour.

​After sometime it was observed that the old parents did not get the required money from their children as their children had many reasons to tell, for not providing the money required by the parents.  At one stage the old parents were left with nothing and almost begged their children for their survival.

​A good friend had already warned the parents against the decision they contemplated to part with their savings and to avoid such a contingency.

​It must be understood that when it comes to inherit

​ing some wealth which was  not expected and 

​was ​not a direct result of something 

for which one has 

worked for,

​ it 

is not given the same value as money earned with o

​ne's 

sweat and tears. 

​Sense of propriety 

is therefore lost. 

G

ratitude is tainted by greed and decency 

gone. 

​It is but natural therefore  for the beneficiary to throw 

out good sense and filial affection like soiled rugs

. I wish it is not so with all the parents as there are many good children who love their parents and  stand by them till the last moments of the beloved parents.

There are therefore  some tips for the old parents If you're over-aged, ​and retire​d  get all the benefits 

​you earned, ​but 

find another income-generating 

​activity, 

that will keep you active physically and mentally.

​ ​
​Keep yourself engaged with some brain work.​

Solve crossword puzzles, play Scrabble, write your memoirs, and above all, read ...this will keep you alert and keep Alzheimer's at bay.

​ I have taken to reading and writing on spiritual topics, which you all know.​

Live in your own place to enjoy independence, privacy and a 

​free independent 

life.

​

Hold on to your nest egg, bank deposits and assets. If you want to help your children, do give, but not to the extent that you wipe out your life's earnings, singing heroically not a shirt on my back nor a penny to my name.

Staying solvent and ​enjoying monetary freedom 
is a good hedge against all kinds of tempests. You will sleep better, you will not be afraid to express your opinion and you will be confident about yourself.

​Not all parents are lucky with the promises made, 

to care for

​them 

when 

​they 

 grow old

​ because ​

priorities change. 

​Unfortunately some 

children are not guilt-ridden or filled with a sense of moral obligation 

​when their family matters 

take top billing in their lives. There are still 

​many ​children who would consider it a privilege to show compassion, genuine love and deep concern for their parents but not all children think alike.

Expand your circle of friends to include young ones who will definitely outlive your old 

​fashioned ideas and beliefs.

 Keep up with new inventions, trends, music and lifestyle including all the scams and schemes you should guard against.

Remember that when you ​move and mingle w
ith the young, you also 

​ ensure that 

your thoughts, experiences and values 

​are conveyed  to them  so

 that the lessons you learned are not lost, forgotten or buried with you.
Be well groomed and smelling fresh of spring water all the time.

​ Your appearance is very important to make you believe that you are not old and inefficient. ​

 There's nothing more depressing than seeing people 

 younger to you being 

exhale 

 and exhausted​ 

when you walk by

​. 

Do not meddle in the life of your children. If they ask for your counsel, give it, but be ready to accept that they may not take it. Their situations in life cannot be compared to the situations that you experienced in your life. The playing field has changed and they need to develop their own set of survival skills. If you raised them to be street smart, they can handle themselves in tough situations and be able to read people. 

​Encourage their dreams and desires but on their own terms.

Do not use old age as your shield and justification for turning grumpy.There's nothing more annoying than 

​ being 

an arrogant, old fool. Welcome each day as another chance to be kind

​, loving​

 and forgiving, to yourself and to others.

Listen to what others may say. Do not throw your weight around just because you are a septua genarian

​, octogenarian

 or a nonagenarian. You are not a depository of knowledge. Even if the roles have been reversed, make growing old a fun-filled, pleasant experience for you and your brood.

​Finally,  pray always and focus on your eternal life. You will definitely leave everything behind, a final journey detached from burden and care. Be more accepting that, sooner, not later, you will croak. Prepare your swan song with a humble and contrite heart. If you believe in a merciful and loving God, there is no need to strut like a star. Nobody is. 

​Remember  - Money 

is y

our last power at old ag

e​!