STRAY THOUGHTS

       SOME STRAY THOUGHTS. ... YOU MAY ALREADY KNOW...

                                      J K  SIVAN 

There are some basic facts which we conveniently forget and it is better to think of them and rectify the defects in us.

1. Dont be under the impression that you are always or  you  need always to be right in what you say or do. Many refuse to accept this basic fact due to ego monitoring them. It would make others silently suffer,  causing unnecessary stress and strain. There is the risk of ending great relationships.  Many argue and fight to establish they are right. They must self check 'Am I right or am I Kind''

 2. There is no need for your controlling others. Everything is happening to us and around us, in accordance with the prevailing situation, eventualities, and people's attitude. We have to allow them to be what they are . Life will be comfortable and better then.

 3. Stop blaming others  for what you have or don't have, or feel, or dont feel. we must own and be guided by our responsibility for our own life.

   Others have no role in it.

4.  Self talk is harmful.  Many hurt themselves because of their negativeOh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative attitude and mindset. It will rob the self confidence in us. God has given us a  mind  which is a superb instrument if used rightly. It is a double edged weapon to be used and handled very carefully.

5.  We suffer sometimes or many times because we believe we cannot do a thing, limiting our capability. There is nothing impossible.

6.  If we stop complaining about everything and everyone, people, situations and events will all bring happiness.py, sad and depressed.

7. Equally worse is the habit of criticising things, events and or people, if they are not acceptable to our mind.  Everyone is right and different from us, and all are same and all want to be happy in life and this should be understood.

8. There is no need to impress others. Be what you are. No need to try hard to do something, say something and try to be impressed..Meaningless. 

9. Accept the changes that take place. We have to live in a changing society. No crying over the past. Change is inevitable and  good. It helps to accommodate ourselves to changing situations and conditions and people.  When I write about the past life and conditions, it is only to enjoy how people lived then and to know the way of life.. It is only the present which turns to be the past later. Missing to enjoy the present and longing for the past is a  dream. Enjoy life as is because life is a journey with destination known but time of reaching it unknown.

10. Fear is our first enemy. It  is just an illusion, it doesn't exist. We only create it and stock it in our minds. Remove it. The only thing to fear is fear itself.

11.   We limit our improvement, self development, and growth by lying to ourselves. We get stuck because we rely on our own excuses.which are not at all real.

13  All  spiritual literature repeatedly say ''be detached''. It is hard to understand or grasp but  not impossible. Sincere effort and repeated practice would help  to detach ourselves from many things at our choice.

14 We cannot live to others' expectation and should never compare our life with that of others. Every one has his own choice  to live a best life. You cannot please everyone.