FLEXIBILITY IN LIFE

 FLEXIBILITY IN LIFE. -   NANGANALLUR J K SIVAN 

Quite  often we  get the advice from true friends and elders , ''dont be rigid always, try to be flexible, it will help''

Why  the attitude  ''Rigidity''  does not help us  in life?.  Let us try to understand this a little.

You would not have failed to observe that  during the rainy season, after a  strong, gusty  wind, say, a storm many  trees are uprooted, branches ripped apart, and there is  strewn twigs and leaves everywhere on the roads. But nothing of the sort happens to the bamboo tree. Why? Bamboo trees are never affected, howsoever strong, gusty the wind may be, uprooting or damaging big or small trees, buildings, electric poles etc  The reason for this  is quite simple, because the  bamboo tree is ''flexible''  will bend and the wind just passes by. No damage is done to the bamboo tree or shoot  because it is not any obstruction in the path of the wind.  

 In the river’s path, huge trees are uprooted but nothing happens to grass  (நாணல் ) because of the  abovesaid flexibility.  They have the tendency to bend with gushing forceful water.   It is a lesson for us.

We need to be flexible in life, and  exhibit our adaptability to meet with a demanding situation..

 Any which cannot  bend or do not bend, will only break.  It is essential forus in our approach to be flexible.  Rigid and inflexible approach  is not helpful. It reprsents our ego.   People  who are  egoistic are always found with a rigid mindset.  They are not agreeable to change.   It is harmful to our interests to be so.    It  will not help us to grow in life.  

We call such people  ''stubbon'' as they show no flexibility in their attitude and approach. 

No body would like to be friendly and associate with such rigid people.  Even within family, the other members dislike such persons leave alone their friends,  colleagues in work spot etc.,  

Rigid people  dont  cooperate and are not amenable to suggestions and opinions of others.  It will result in hardhip and difficulties only.

If any team work is to be successful and beneficial it is absolutely necessary to be flexible  for members of the team. Close cooperation with the leader and interaction with members would be successful if there is flexibility.

Cooperation of all would result in success of the team work benefiting everyone.

In the changing world, adaptability is a must to survive and those who are flexible and adaptable are the  fittest to survive.  Change is a must  and necessity, to cope with varying conditions and situations and  those  who are intelligent to realise this and are flexible and adaptable find life  meaningful.

I have  witnessed  many couple in families who are not happy because one of them cannot get along with the other, which means one is rigid always.  Conditioning of the mind is needed much in such circumstances. Homes become an unbearable disaaster as a result of  rigidity of partners in life.  Mastering of life is easily possible  by listening to others and accept openy the views of others and welcome suggestions. Rigidity is thus replaced by loveable  pleasing personality.  We are easy to approach and  have more friends and associates once we have become pragmatic in our approach. It is known as maturity, mature people  meet with success always.  Do you find this talk with you interesting and beneficial? .