NEW YEAR WISH

 

              NEW YEAR WISH FOR A HAPPY LIFE  --   J K  SIVAN 

Minding one's own business without interfering in others' matters or offering opinion is a good sign for happiness  in life.  I say this because of my experience and knowledge that many of us suffer from problems created by our ownselves, interfering too much in others' affairs, either knowingly or unknowingly.  Such interference  is encouraged  because  we are  convinced that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect  solution,  and others who dont contribute, follow  or share our view, or  thinking must be fools not knowing the right  direction.  Thus we forget and are ignorant that  there is  existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God, for God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two  persons  can think or act  alike.  All are acting in  the way they opt,  prompted and guided by the Divine force  within.  God watches and looks after everything. Why are we  bothered? Minding our own business will bring  immense peace to which we missed otherwise..

We have a tendency to harbour ill feeling inside our heart for the person who  we think  has  insulted or  harmed us.  It is our wrong feeling.  We foster grievances, which gifts us with sleeplessness, stomach ulcer, high BP  if not any other ailments gnawing us  from within.

Of course  whatever insult or injury we suffered  was once,let it be,  but  nourishing and fostering the grievance is  aggravating the situation and wound is prevented from healing by itself.   Let us  develop and practice the art of forgiving and forgetting. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of  everyone.   Our Life on earth is too short to  miss the chance of enjoying the happiness offered everymoment  by Nature  for us.

If  I  imagine and  feel I am a great  writer and that everyone in the world should compulsorily read  whatever I  scribble,  appreciate and  stand  applauding  my writing.  Why, they dont do it?  Everyone  is  selfish and praises  anyone  only with  selfish motive. Each person is a mortal with a bundle of defects in them. No one individual is picture perfect. Then why do you value the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave for such false recognition and lose your peace of mind. 

Let us  believe in ourselves. People's praises do not last long and are not worth it. Doing our  duties ethically and sincerely and leaving the rest to God is the best way.  I believe in it and doing so.

There is another thing known as  Jealousy  which can rob us of our peace of mind.  We sometimes  feel that despite our working  very hard  and sincerely,  some of our colleagues in the office do,  get promotions, and increments in salary  unjustified.

Supposing we  started a business several years ago but we  are disappointed that  we are not  successful as  our competititors  who started later the same line of business but very lucky.   There  are many examples like this in  every walk of life. Is there any need to be jealous?  No, remember everybody's life is shaped by his previous Karma, which is his destiny. If we are  destined to be rich, none in the  world can stop us.   If  not so destined  no one can help as well. What do we gain by blaming others and being jealous of them.? It gets us no where except  gifting us with  restlessness and uneasiness.

There was a time  when street vendors  thrived bringing us  all our requirements  in carts  right in front of our doors on the streets.  But change in  the environment has brought now many departmental stores in huge complexes close to our residence, where can get anything we want at a stretch.  Who will now wait for the cart to bring only limited things of what we desire? We  need to grow friendly  and adapt ourselves to changing environment.

What cannot be cured must be endured is a best principle. It would turn every disadvantage into an advantageous situation.

How many inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents  we face every day which are beyond our control.  We must learn to put up with these and accept them as part of life.  "If God wilsl it so, so be it" should be our  watchword.  We will gain patience, and tolerance  which will strengthen us .

Some of us  have the tendency to invite and take upon themselves more responsibilities than  they are really capable of carrying out.  This is due to some ego.  Everyone should know his limitations.   Additional loads can only bring worries and affect our health and mind.   if we have a free time  let us  spend it  to develop our inward life of prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce restlessness and bring peace.   Fewer  the thoughts, greater is the peace of mind.

Meditation for atleast  thirty minutes is enough to gain peace and inner strength whch can take care of the other twenty three and half hours of our life in a day.   Gradually we can practice and increase the duration of our meditation to gain more benefits.  Our efficiency and power of decision making would increase.

Do you know that an idle mind is devil's workshop? 

All eveil thoughts and deeds are born in the idle  mind.  We must  therefore  Keep our mind occupied in something positive, beneficial to others and do  something worthwhile.  Social work, temple visits, cleaning the environment, and service to the poor   and reading of  good books keeps our mind  occupied . Chanting of God's name when free is possible for a few only.

Wasting precious time is unpardonable  leading to self destruction.   Planning  perfectly anything is  impossible because  we cannot   anticipate or foresee  all future happenings.  That is why we say  ''Man proposes but God disposes ''. If any of our plan fails it is to be accepted in good faith that rectification and correction of earlier mistakes  would lead to final success. Sitting back and worrying  has no purpose. Man is imperfect and can  learn from  his own  mistakes and should not  brood over the past or regret for anything.  Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. It is the Will of God.   No one has the power to alter His course of will. No need to cry over spilled milk.